How To Customize Your Mattress When You and Your Partner Sleep Differently

Customize Mattress for Partners

Dear Bedrooms & More —

I like a softer mattress but my partner likes a firmer one. Short of sleeping in different beds, is there any way we can both get comfortable?


Mismatched for Sleep

Hi, Mismatched —

There are many couples who find themselves mismatched when it comes to sleep comfort preferences. One likes a firmer bed; the other likes a plusher bed. And neither one wants to move into the spare bedroom! Fortunately, there are a couple ways to customize one mattress to meet different partners’ sleep preferences.

When it comes to a mattress itself, your most dramatically customizable option would be a Split Queen or Split King mattress. You like an Extra Firm surface feel while your partner prefers Extra Plush? No problem. A split mattress is just what it sounds like — a custom-built mattress that is one-half what you want and one-half what your partner wants, but in the typical size you’d like (Queen, King, or California King).

Beyond firmness levels, each partner can use mattress pads and toppers to fine-tune the feel of their side through the years. This creates a sleep surface truly unique to you, without giving up on sleeping next to your sweetie. A split mattress uses a standard box size (unless you’re using a platform bed frame, for which no box is needed). If you’re familiar with adjustable electric beds where each side can adjust independently, a split mattress is the type you’d need for one of those.

Another mattress option:

Zip cover mattress. This type of mattress allows partners to customize the components on each side of the bed to their liking. If you have a mattress with a zip cover, like our Wallingford, Woodland Park, Thackeray, or Meridian, all you have to do is remove the cover to swap new layers in or out, depending on the feel you want. Each partner can perfect the feel they like.

A mattress topper is another brilliant way to customize the feel of a bed to suit two partners’ different sleep preferences. Desire a softer, plusher surface feel? Add a mattress topper on one side for enhanced cushioning, while your partner retains the firm feel they enjoy.

On the other hand, one partner can firm up a mattress that’s a bit too soft. Try a firming pad over your mattress (but beneath the topper, if you’re using one) for added support.

Mismatched, we hope this helps you and your partner create a place where you can both get comfortable.

Yours in Great Sleep,

Bedrooms & More

6 thoughts on “How To Customize Your Mattress When You and Your Partner Sleep Differently

  1. Michelle says:

    I can’t find a brand that carries a mattress topper that is half soft and half hard. We have a Queen size bed and have a topper on it but the topper is too soft for my husband. but I love it and two twin toppers equal a King not a Queen. Can you give a brand name of a topper that would work for us?

    • anthony says:

      So, short anwser is yes it would be something we could do for you. Only thing is it would almost all be custom work because split queen toppers are not something we regularly carry.The other thing is that topper are meant to be soft so for the hard half it would almost be entirely custom. Also, for a king it’s actually going to be two TwinXL that make up a king.

  2. Olivia Pearson says:

    I like how you mentioned that different people have different sleep and mattress preferences. I think this could make it difficult to find and decide on one mattress to have for your bed, because you want to find one that is specifically just right for you. My husband and I are looking for a mattress, but we want to make sure it’s one that fits both our very specific comfort needs. We’ll have to look for a custom mattress business that can help us personalize our bed, and get the most out of our night’s sleep- comfortably and agreeably.

    • Micah says:

      I am glad you enjoyed the article! You may be happy to find that we are a custom mattress company that offer quality mattresses of different styles to match the needs of our customers. You should come into our new store in Seattle on 45th Street. We just opened our new location and we would love to show you our selection!

  3. Karl says:

    You mentioned that one way for on partner to firm a mattress that’s too soft is to use a “firming pad over your mattress (but beneath the topper, if you’re using one)”

    What is a firming pad?

    • Anthony says:

      A firming pad is essentially compressed cotton with a cotton cover. They work with our zippered mattresses. They’re excellent for firming up half of the bed. As well as, adding additional lumbar support if you lay it across the middle third of your mattress.

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